Each of us has access to an abundance of inner resources. Tapping into those resources is what makes us shine when we are at our best. Showing up at our best is our core intention. And this is what our life partner deserves to be exposed to. When we become absorbed with aspects of our relationships that do not work as we expect, we lose touch with our inner resources. It is like unplugging a device that is meant to be plugged in order to function: you can push buttons with no effect and come to the conclusion that it is broken. My job is to help you reconnect to your own resources, from which clarity, ease and joy flow into your relationships. I like to call this reconnection process energy alignment.
Energy alignment is allowing the natural energy flow in your physical experience. It has been described in many ways and called many things. It is the basis of any authentic spiritual practice I have come across throughout the years. There have been many attempts to describe this experience in religion (for example, as enlightenment), as well as in art (being in the flow). I choose to call it energy alignment because when it happens, I can feel energy moving and because I feel more like Who I Really Am (I am aligned with the Self). I should say I prefer something like “being in the flow” to something like “enlightenment”, because I see it as more ongoing than permanent and subtle rather than dramatic.
Yes. (Vital) energy. That thing you feel moving through your body when you experience intense emotions. The reason why we use words such as uplifting, feeling down, heartbreaking etc., etc. An adult is often “low on energy today” while a child might have “too much energy”. Nothing unfamiliar about that. Also nothing unfamiliar about the energy boost one can get from positive feedback or a motivational speech. So many examples in your personal experience of thoughts changing the energy dynamics inside your body.
Here’s a simple invitation: pay attention to this type of phenomena. They will show you so much about “life, the universe and everything” .
Yes. Being yourself. Being in the zone. Centred. Focused. Inspired. Fully present in the now.
All the leaders and teachers who ever felt the energy, the vibe of an audience as a whole. All the sales people who ever felt the dynamics in a dialogue with a client beyond words or actions. All the scientists, athletes, writers, musicians and other creators who ever felt the dynamics of a great new something coming through. Alignment.
The mind is a tool. Where is the instructions manual?
How many times did we feel frustrated because we clearly understood something intellectually but we just couldn’t seem to translate it into our personal experience? How many times have we told ourselves something like “I should know better!”?
We really don’t need to beat ourselves up about it. There is nothing weird going on. It’s just that we have trained our minds to pay attention primarily to objects and actions in the detriment of our inner worlds. We did this collectively, please let’s stop blaming our parents – thank you! There is this implicit idea that objects matter, actions matter and that they are very real, undeniably real. The inner world, on the other world, is extremely subjective, which somehow supposedly makes it less real and / or less important.
And then we deal with anxiety or compulsive behaviours or stress related illness and then, maybe, we become more interested in our inner worlds. Then we would like our minds to cooperate.
Funny thing: way before one feels any anxiety at all, way before one displays any unwanted behaviour, way before experiencing illness, one experiences A LOT of things that keep putting up the red flag within. We just aren’t looking there much anymore. Slightly uncomfortable feelings, gradually becoming more uncomfortable built up within while we were busy focusing on actions and objects.
It’s never too late to regain our sensitivity to the inner world. All it requires is a shift in focus. And it is so worth it. It is simple. For most of us, it is not easy though. We have trained ourselves over SO many years to react to actions and things.
How about this as an alternative? Pay close attention to how you feel. Observe the body. The body is your faithful companion and it always lets you know when something is to your advantage or to your detriment. When you notice tension coming up in the body, just re-orient your thoughts until the tension subsides. And then re-orient them again and again in the direction in which the body is guiding you.”
It is no secret that thoughts influence the chemistry of our bodies. But we feel so compelled to think about things that create tension within us because we think that the harder we think about them, the more chances we have to find solutions and get things done. “I am feeling like crap right now, it’s the perfect time for me to find solutions and get things done!” That is a trap.
There is another, even more subtle trap that people fall into. As more and more of us begin to realise the link between the way we think and the way we experience life, some of us come up with ideas like positive affirmations. Jim Carrey writes himself a check of $10 000 000 for acting services and carries it with him in his wallet. And wow! He actually gest that check for his Dumb and Dumber movie! Ooh! I would like to get $10 000 000; I will write a check to myself and carry it in my wallet. Positive affirmations and rituals like that are great ideas. But their power is not in the words or in the actions they involve. We think that if we imitate the actions or the words, we will get the same results. Jim Carrey FELT the money coming to him BEFORE he even had the idea of writing that famous check. How do I know? Heh! Ask Jim!
See, we could agree that an affirmation like “I am safe, I am supported.” sounds like a positive affirmation, based on the words. But this affirmation can feel totally different to a person who is in a relatively good place, compared to the way it would feel to a person who is bitter after years and years of feeling attacked and devalued. The body tells the truth. The first person thinks “I am safe, I am supported.” and their body reacts with a pleasant “Aaaaah!”. The person who feels rejected decides to use the same thought as a positive affirmation and the body reacts with discomfort, usually in the chest, in the stomach or in the throat.
If it’s not the objects, actions or even thoughts, what is it?
It is the energy alignment. The vibrational quality of the energy that is flowing through us in a specific moment. The body will let us know when the vibration is rising and when it is lowering. We can learn to pay attention to what now feels like really subtle cues. In time, those subtle cues will become so compelling that we won’t be able to ignore them anymore.
Knowledge cannot substitute experience. Whatever answer can be given for the question of what energy alignment is, that answer is more of a metaphor, a bit of an artistic interpretation from the person offering it.
Like most people, I started my spiritual journey hoping that I would achieve specific things that were valuable to me. In recent times, I feel like I finally understood what “seek first the kingdom of God” (biblical quote) actually means. I understood in practice, not just in my mind. Experience has demonstrated to me – happy, blessed, successful experience – that getting what I want makes no sense in the absence of energy alignment. It is like having the best cake in the world but no sense of taste. So now energy alignment is what I want and all else is a happy side-effect of it.
If you are reading this article, odds are that you, too, are wanting energy alignment as a means to an end. I am not trying to discourage you in pursuing your goals. I just believe that energy alignment in itself is better than whatever else you are trying to achieve through it.
All good things will flow from energy alignment. We have been so well trained to be problem solvers that it is sometimes difficult to grasp the idea that things have a way of working themselves out once we get in alignment. This is not just easier, but it is the only real solution. You do not have the physical time to personally attend to all the issues that are of interest to you. You cannot get what you want only through your actions. Other people, nature, the Universe have to cooperate in order for that to happen.
How can you get in alignment?
In terms of what you do, there are endless ways of achieving alignment. And that is beautiful. Simply put, it is a matter of how you focus your attention. And life offers so many opportunities to focus your attention! That is why there are so many guides and teachers showing you different ways of achieving energy alignment.
If you have some experience with a practice that cultivates self awareness (meditation, martial arts, yoga etc.), it will probably be much easier for you to detect the cues that your body is giving you when your energy alignment is improving. So, in theory, all you have to do is observe yourself constantly and keep focusing in the ways that bring good signals from your body. Not keep doing “the right things”, but keep focusing in the right way. How many times did you do “the right thing” (or “the fun thing”, or “the important thing”) without getting the satisfaction you imagined it would give you?
You might figure out how to do that on your own or you could get some guidance from someone who is often in alignment. The benefit of having someone to guide you in your energy alignment practice is that you might pick it up directly, vibrationally. It is not as much related to what you talk about and what you do together, but a lot more related to the vibration that the guide is emitting.
My way into energy alignment
As explained above, there are endless ways of improving energy alignment. I prefer this method for its creativity (I could even say beauty), for its accessibility and reliability. It is simple, yet powerful. Here is what would happen in an energy alignment session with me.
The purpose of the session is to keep the mind focused into good places it would not usually go to. You are surely aware of the fact that different people confronted with similar situations can respond very differently. You are probably also aware of the fact that the people you admire are special not because of what happened to them, but because of the way they choose to be. These are observations on how people can focus their attention and on how their experience changes as a result.
During the energy alignment session you will practice focusing your attention in a way that serves you. And you will be looking for signs of improved energy alignment. A short term effect will be positive changes in the chemistry of your body and you will feel that. You will also learn to change the way in which you focus when you notice that you are becoming tense (a sign of energy alignment slipping away).
So how does all that happen exactly? I pick a topic that I know has a great potential to help you relax back into your natural alignment. You talk alongside that topic for as long as you can feel the energy flowing easily or increasing. Your emotions are faithful friends in this type of exercise. When I feel you getting stuck or going off track (problems are so tempting!), I re-orient your attention by clarifying or changing the topic.
Here are some topics I have used (just keep in mind that they were tailored to suit the client):
- You have the opportunity to move your consciousness into a new body. You realise you are no longer attached to your memories. Create memories for that new body.
- Describe in detail the best texture you could possibly experience with your five senses.
- Imagine living a day as a favourite animal. Describe your day in detail.
- Tell an impossible story.
- Create an improbable room.
It is basically a game of hot and cold with emotions in which you lead the way and I assist. We will be giving the mind a rest from its usual thought patterns. We tend to allow ourselves to think only about the things that are “true”, things that have happened in the past or things we believe are likely to happen in the future. We rarely invest focus and time into thoughts that are not related to the “reality” of the past or present or the probabilities of the future. And yet we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them (I like to think Albert Einstein did say that).
My way does not encourage or discourage any action. There is no condition we are trying to alleviate. We are working at a higher level, training our mind back into a state that allows our natural wellbeing.
Why not just meditate?
When our minds are intensely preoccupied with a problem, they just won’t let go. At some point we would like to hit pause and take a rest, but the mind cannot let go of the metaphoric hot iron that is burning our hand. When our mind is in this state, we sometimes are unable to do silent meditation.
By all means, do meditate if you can. What I am describing here is practice that applies to the rest of your life, when you are not meditating. Meditation is a very good way into energy alignment and it complements my method beautifully.
As you practice energy alignment in whichever way you feel works best for you, you will discover your preferences and will get insights about yet new ways to approach it. And this, as I was saying above, is beautiful.
I would love to guide you on your path to energy alignment.